Essential guidelines for the new role of parenting
We suggest you start from day zero, before birth. This is one of the moments where you will hear the most voices about what it is to be parents. Choosing well who to listen to will make us bond in a particular way with the needs of our children. It will not be the same if they tell us that motherhood and fatherhood split life in two because the pleasures end, or on the contrary, if they share stories with us about the joy that a home experiences when a child arrives.
The first days will bring mixed emotions, joys mixed with fatigue and fear, gratitude combined with tenderness.
Day one begins after the arrival of a child home. These first days will be a lot of adaptation for both the baby and the parents.
We then created a list of guidelines so that they do not distrust their ability to be parents and direct their energy towards the parenting process.
- Be a very good researcher. When hearing the slightest advice, try to find out from health professionals about whether these practices enhance the growth of our children and development as parents. This will prevent us from believing everything and worrying about things that are not true.
- Surround yourself with people and spaces that generate good feelings. Our baby has a direct channel with what the mother feels, therefore, she communicates her emotions to him. Selecting where and who to be with because of how good it makes us feel will make a difference in pregnancy and in the entire parenting process.
- Identify the strengths of parents or caregivers. Let's turn these strengths into responsibilities for the needs of the new baby. For example, a calmer personality will be able to more easily accompany moments of misunderstood crying, those who are more precise in their movements will be able to cut their nails.
- Share our parenting story. During pregnancy there is time to learn more about what our partner's upbringing was like and share our own. Reflecting on the practices that we remember with love and which ones we would not want to repeat, becomes an essential exercise to create our own concept of being parents.
- Identify emotions. To clarify our emotions, it is important to raise awareness, since sometimes what we feel is exhaustion due to the new demands of caring for the baby or, on the contrary, the emotions are related to other life events. This will allow us to redistribute functions or dedicate time as a couple.
- Order visits. Let's try to reach agreements on visits to meet the baby. These, if possible, should not be very long or frequent in the first months.
- Teamwork. Leave food prepared, prepare in advance what the baby needs and distribute housework, if possible, to other family members.
- The importance of speaking. Now, as parents, we must frequently take time to talk about how we are progressing in raising our child, what we like, what we should change, what other alternatives we have, how much we involve uncles, grandparents or friends, among many more. issues that can be talked about for a better quality of life.